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"Parents are the scourge," which is the name of an online discussion group, the "scourge" is a group of 80 children after their parents describe the 50 words. "Very shocked!" Friends "big bottle" first in line to see when the alternative name, almost screaming. At the same time, this has been established for 2 years and a half of discussion groups, there are still members join daily, update the post, so "clashes" as the network destined controversy continued ......
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Event origin
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"Parents are the scourge of" group discovered network
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A network has 10,464 members pushed to the network controversial discussion group on the cusp. "Parents are the scourge" This was evaluated as "Thriller, outrageous," the name,http://www.4dictionary.com, but with a very strong appeal, attracting many users join a discussion group. In early July 2010, the group member is less than 7,000 people, now has over a million persons. They are mostly neglected or hurt the parents of a child, or a "group of setbacks in the relationship between parents and children, the young way of thinking very hard."
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The discussion group full name is "Anti-Parents Parents are the scourge", founded in January 18, 2008. Declaration group wrote: "We are not endless piety, we just want to live better under the premise of honor, to resist decay, ignorance, vexatious parents bondage and harm that requires skill, we have to discuss..."
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Online discussion group home page,http://www.kazenoko-club.com/bbs/yyregi.cgi, such as "Are you repeating the mistakes parents" "teach you how to work with parents confrontation" "They will children as a" thing "rather than" and other 10 posts are considered long-term guiding significance Sticky . Thereafter, followed by post to reach 128.
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User talk
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Parental behaviors broke my heart
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Convened a panel member to send a note,hogan outlet, many users will immediately respond. They say that most parents or their own front suffered psychological damage and critical approach to parenting.
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July 18, netizen "fog of eyes" in the group made the post "We talk about since most parents do something makes you angry," caused a lot of people thread. Netizen "fog of eyes" about his experiences -
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Hour too naughty, throw me a boarding school, I left the shadow too. I remember when First love, secretly bought a romance, in fact, that it was all over romance, is the kind of youth literature, my mother saw it, mercilessly dumped me a slap in the face, put the book page by page torn to pieces, to me a Caesar, I was crying mess, not because of that slap in the face more pain, but she rip my heart sinking ignorant. Forget those cynical lifetime ......
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User "babyblue" is also deeply felt, "They always make me choose, for I had a life, calling: love let her intervene in daily talks about is the lack of filial piety in one sentence: not as good as the original When born when eating eggs make up! "
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User "jetfire" said, "Mom before the exam, college entrance examination to find little things scold me, and said to you that bear-like which also pass the test."
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In the User "KingHenry" opinion, "Chinese parents easy hysteria." This touched friends "Mi Mu" nervous, "My parents never out of the NPC whisper children, but for me to get up from the curse,http://bbs.dyj.cc/forum.php?mod=viewthread&tid=4769256&fromuid=15234, I really do not know they told me where so intense anger."
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Network dispute
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I love how to become "scourge"
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Also the netizen raised objections. A NetEase users said: "I was the children, I think that 'parents are evil' argument is really outrageous choice for your body is affected by it to parents, no matter how that parents are our parents, you love your!! parents and anyone not matter, is your problem, do not look for any excuse! "
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Another user said: "'Parents are the scourge,' this is a joke to say it is better to filial big day the earth, I am a middle-aged man,http://www.huamanlou.com/home.php?mod=spacecp&ac=blog&blogid=, on to support their parents, at home to raise their children to run around every day!. toil, but home, all the troubles vanished, because the family with children's laughter, there are greeting the elderly, there is her husband's love. So I think the parents are not the scourge of the child nor the scourge scourge in this transition period, we The concept has not changed, imagine, children and their parents have a 20-year gap, which is very different 20 years. Therefore, parents should pay attention to change their ideas, their children to appreciate their parents, mutual understanding, mutual communication, connect the baton, and more Good to promote the development of society, do not blame each other! "
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User "Galaxy Flutist" is that "only a small number of these children, they may hurt,http://sougouwiki.com, lack of confidence, not as mainstream to tell."
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Experience
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Between mother and daughter "Love Equation"
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Friends "are not afraid of old Nizi" Netease forum post, about the methods she and the children get along, perhaps these experiences with other parents revealing.
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"Not afraid of old Nizi", said: "Many people are in their own have not had time to grow up to do in the ignorant parents, we are no exception we are not educators, nor a psychologist,louboutin pas cher, is not too common. then common ordinary people, if that we have got a good daughter, are derived from a word! - love, however, one thousand parents, there are one thousand kinds of 'love equation,' we grow together with daughter process, summed up our own 'love of the equation.' "-
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Let her know how to pay for others. Daughter day at home, will help the family to do housework, has become a habit, a "deserved" all the pay did not reward, told her: This is the ability of life, is "the ability to love."
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He told her: where there is the shadow of the sun, even in the dark, but also with the lamp to illuminate the hearts of the direction of the front row.
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Told her: no mother outside the house, to learn tolerance, learn to adapt, rather than become another man's "hedgehog"; the so-called "happy", not because they have more, but because less about.
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I love her but never spoiled. Daughter said: Thank you, I had never used, was accustomed to seeing children will cowardly, are accustomed to seeing children not assertive. I'm so glad that her daughter read the "our love."
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Expert opinion
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Three kinds of causes generation gap
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It was concluded that this discussion group is characterized by: "After the age of 50 with his parents left the imprint of features to educate their children,http://pianzenan.w38.my667.com/forum.php?mod=viewthread&tid=114519, but also with their own lives to the provisions of thinking children's future path, resulting in a 80 rebellious children, who accidentally meet at 'parents are the scourge of' group, complained to each other in this. "
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China Education Association, Xu Jianguo, president of Xi'an Institute of Education recently also seen on the Internet "Parents are the scourge of" discussion, he believes that happen is not surprising, but also increased the number of groups involved in this discussion, but the trend is It can change.
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Xu Jianguo said that this problem occurs, there are three specific reasons -
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1. The examination of the impact of education, evaluation of the child's parents to focus on a number, that test scores. The child's psychological growth, personality development, ethics, behavior,http://jsuva.com/cgi-bin/bbs/light.cgi, hobbies and interests,escarpin louboutin pas cher, etc. are ignored. Parents even know this approach is not appropriate, but under pressure from future employment, they had to force myself to do it. Then in a sense that parents are also out of frustration.
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2. not communicate. China's view of the relationship between parents in their children, there is a concept of private property, "I was born,nike tn pas cher france, I raised, you do not hear me all right?" So,http://hrr.ul.hirosaki-u.ac.jp, they and the children get along condescending, preaching serious behavior mandatory,air max 90 pas cher, and even violence. In this case, the children and they could not have a normal communication.
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3. The reason for the child. Pluralistic society and culture so that people's value orientation contrasts, much earlier in children's physical and psychological maturity, the concept of life and the parents are not the same. This gave rise to the child clothing, dress, diet, dating habits, social evaluation, etc. and parents are completely different.
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"Parents and children want to live in friendship, we might try to start their own change." Xu Jianguo said. (Reporter Liao Hou Xiao-tree gold intern Vanessa) Source: Xi'an Evening News